Do fathers suffer from abortion On saturday, chicago's cardinal francis george will celebrate the annual respect for life mass at st.Cornelius parish;5205 N.Lieb ave.Where he will commission respect life parish coordinators and committee members from cook and lake counties.Those coordinators will work with parishioners to foster a healthy respect for life http://www.jb3.co.uk/wedding-party-dress/bridesmaid-dresses.html that is consistent with church teachings. As part of that effort, the knights of columbus and the roman catholic archdiocese of chicago office for evangelization also sponsored a conference last week, featuring several fathers who had lost their children to abortion, as well as psychologists who testified that abortion can have dire effects on the human psyche. Psychologist vincent ruea practicing psychotherapist for more than 30 years who formerly served on the faculty at california state university at los angeles and san diego international universitynoted that the resulting depression crosses gender lines. "Despite the fact thatless than a month agothe american psychological association(Apa)Has pronounced that abortion is psychologically safe for women, we are in the midst of a conference in which men are recounting their grief over abortion,"Rue said. But jon o'brien, president of catholics for choice, said the conference demonstrates that catholic leaders are straining to present a compelling argument against abortion rights. "This tells us that the knights are so desperate, so bereft of decent strategy and have so failed at getting americans to vote against abortion that they seek to manipulate and exploit http://www.jb3.co.uk/wedding.html a bunch of sad, angry men,"O'brien said. "The knights and these men won't convince the american people of anything other than the fact that some elements of the antiabortion movement have hit rock bottom. " Earlier this month, cardinal francis george issued a clarification on the church's teaching about abortion, in response to some democratic politicians' statements about the church's teaching.He said the church condemned abortions since its first days based on scripture about god's protection of life in the womb and catechism that said: "You shall not slay the child by abortions.You shall not kill what is generated. " "This same teaching has been constantly reiterated in every place and time Cheap Prom Dresses up to vatican ii, which condemned abortion as a 'heinous crime, '"George wrote. At the conference, psychologist catherine coyle said that"Those who grieve after an abortion need to realize that they are not alone. " "It is the compassionate thing for us to do to recognize that some people have profound grief and suffering after an abortion,"She said. "And if we are to be a compassionate society, we must validate their pain and provide the help they need regardless of where we may stand individually on the issue of abortion. " What makes men and women suffer after an abortion?Is it grief or is it guilt?Should the church take a different approach to reducing the number of abortions and fostering respect for life? What exactly are we talking about here?Are we talking about men whose wives/girlfriends/one night stands had an abortion without their knowledge and/or consent?Or are we talking about men who made the decision in conjunction with their wife/girlfriend/one night stand? If the former, sorry, but i don have a lot of sympathy.For years women have been told basically, if you don want to get pregnant, then keep your knees together, sweetie.A variation of that applies here.If you don know for sure what the woman would do in the event of an unplanned/unwanted pregnancy, and/or if you disagree with what she would do, why are you having sex with her, particularly unprotected sex?Keep your zipper in the upright and locked position, gentlemen, and you won have this problem. Also, how did you react when she told you about the pregnancy?What kind of father were you planning to be?Not only the basic, were you planning to keep up with your child support, but were you planning to be there at 3:00 in the morning when the child has been screaming for the last 5 hours?Were you planning to help with diaper changing, feeding, bathing, disciplining and playing with the child, all while keeping the house clean, putting meals on the table and earning a living?I think a lot of women who choose abortion do so because they don feel that they have decent support from the father, in which case the father has no right to complain about the mother choice. Or if the latter, well, i say the same thing as i say when people talk about the psychological consequences of abortion on women:What are the consequences of giving a child up for adoption?What are the consequences of having, raising and paying for an unwanted child?As soon as there is an unwanted/unexpected pregnancy, there is a huge potential for negative psychological consequences.I respect guys who step up to the plate and face those consequences along with the mother, but the two of you must have decided that abortion was the best option for you at the time so, yeah, you have to accept the consequences of that choice, just as you would have to accept the consequences of the other choices you could have made. Dienne September 19, 2008 at 12:40 PM On the topic of abortion, even many people who defend the possibility of legal abortions, they say they are not proabortion, but they don't want to punish women who are in this difficult situation.In germany a curious thing has happened.Something that reflects that legal abortion affects adversely to the country.And also that the change is possible:You can promote a culture of life with the support of the citizens, when really there is a real wish of avoid abortions.Since the liberalization of abortion in this country, the number of abortions is officially four million.For that reason, among others, children are seen as an unintended effect of having sex.Many people thought it was necessary to promote greater social acceptance of children in an aging society.And civil society acted, without waiting Wedding Dresses:http://www.jb3.co.uk/ for action by the state to promote births.They joined several media organizations in a campaign.Interestingly, after the campaign, the birth rate has risen in germany.The video is exciting.All the guys i know who were involved felt grief.Two of them seemed to experience even more than grief. We expect men and women both to have grief over a miscarriage, why not over an abortion?If nothing else, won there always be the sense of"What might have been? " As for the apa study of abortion and the conclusion that it is safe, the medical community in england isn so sure.The royal college of psychiatrists has worried about possible negative effects and even recommended preabortion counseling.They wrote that: "Consent cannot be informed without the provision of adequate and appropriate information regarding the possible risks and benefits to physical and mental health. "More information is available here:And within the past month, the british medical journal, the lancet concluded: "Although this report shows that there is no causal link between abortion and mental illhealth, the fact that some women do experience psychological problems after a termination should not be trivialised. "It also took issue with the apa and noted: "In 2006, a study published in the journal of youth adolescence concluded that abortion had a greater risk of adverse mental health outcomes compared with childbirth. " Last but not least, i couldn agree with dr.Coyle more.Those who feel grief or hurt after an abortion experience need our support.This shouldn be something that is a taboo subject.We owe it to those who grieve to listen to their stories.We owe it to them and ourselves to come to this issue with an open mind.